The parent/child relationship in this poem is shown to be of a nature where the children want to obtain their freedom and independence from their mother and father but are halted from proceeding as they have to accompany their mother as she has herself not progressed into the characteristics of adulthood. The way forward for the children is to be unchained from there mother and this is done through her deserting her family in search for her own self-determination.
The next poem is called “On Worms, and Being Lucky” and concerns the same type of relationship but involves a more positive and optimistic relationship which is based on Fanthorpe’s own experiences with her father at a tender age. The title of the poem itself describes two things which you wouldn’t think compliment each other although both have an importance in the bond between the father and daughter. The initial stanza begins with a short and indirect phrase which captures the reader’s attention as Fanthorpe begins to talk about sand and its various characteristics.
The poet uses a more conversational technique in her writing by using the words that you would expect the character to use. This allows the reader to help picture the setting and character as we are being told what the character is saying and their thoughts. “Two kinds of sand. One heavy, gritty, The other, shiny weedy ribs” The poet is discussing the two different types of sands and how the two don’t collaborate with each other using her experiences of walks down the seashore as a example of luck and how there are various kinds of luck which she discusses later on in her poem.
Fanthorpe then proceeds in reminiscing about her childhood memories which many people would share with her such as, “You tramp along in sunbonnet and spade”. The use of the word “you” brings upon the impression that this is an event which many people take part in and which many people would have experienced. This suggests that Fanthorpe is sharing her experience with the readers through her informal conversational style of writing. “And yes, there are lugworms, and you carve them out,” The next stanza discusses the instinctive love the relationship between the father and daughter has even in the light situations such as finding lugworms.
The use of italics for the word “are” makes the reader or person who has shared the experience to feel lucky and familiar with her finding. The father’s reaction to the daughter’s “lucky” find demonstrates that there relationship is very affectionate and that the two are very close to each other. I believe that the message Fanthorpe is trying to portray that some relationships see people become very close through there love and care but some peoples relationships are dependent on the freedom of the people who are part of the bonding. “You’ve got the knack, my princess, he says.